I don’t understand Cuckolding

"You love my high sex drive, don't you Honey?"

“You love my high sex drive, don’t you Honey?”

For those of you who do not know what cuckolding is, Its basically cheating on your submissive man (either behind his back or in front of his face) with a non submissive man in order to fulfill some kind of erotic fantasy. To me, this is backwards and just doesn’t make any sense.

First of all, any real dominant woman is turned on by submissive men, therefore, the idea of taking a lover who is not submissive should have no appeal to her.

Secondly, the reason that cuckolding exists is to make the submissive man feel like he is incapable of satisfying his woman to the point where she needs to seek out a dominant man. However, a ‘vanilla’ lover will have no idea how to satisfy a dominant woman anyway because all he cares about is his own gratification. Cuckolding is much less satisfying than sex with your submissive man.

Thirdly, cuckolding implies a nature of hierarchy within the male population. It implies that my submissive man (no matter how hard he tries) can not satisfy me because he is inferior to other men. This may be part of the fantasy, however, it does not make sense to me because why would any dominant woman, having respect and pride toward her pet and the work that she has put into him, put him below another man? If anything, me should be below women, not other men.

And lastly, the authors of cuckolding blogs are usually feminists who believe in female empowerment. But cuckolding implies that all women can only be satisfied through being submissive with a partner. So women can never really be dominant? This is insulting and very untrue.

I have read blogs of dominant women who claim to believe men exist to serve women, yet, these are the same women that cuckold their men with men that go against virtually everything that they believe in. And that doesn’t make sense.

My submissive partners allow me to own them. It may just be the Asian part of my personality, but I am proud of and take care of what I own. if for some reason he cannot satisfy me, then I am not training him right.

–Miss Ari ^_^

6 thoughts on “I don’t understand Cuckolding

  1. Sobek says:

    As a sub guy, it’s a total turn off for me as well. I am not attracted to submissive women and in almost all of the cuckold arrangements, the woman is a switch at best, who submits to a dom guy. Nothing wrong with being a switch but please, if someone is a switch they should admit they are. Not call themselves a “domme”. But I find it is common for a lot of women to label themselves a domme and be very interested in the whole cuckolding thing. That whole dynamic is being pushed as “femdom”. It’s as much maledom as it is femdom. And maledom is not really my thing.

  2. sandman92109 says:

    I agree with abezure.. as one who finds great pleasure from being cuckolding, it always puzzled me why a Domme/Cuckoldress would submit to a Dom. That is not – to me, at least – consistent with the midst of a woman who truly enjoys her dominant role. The only explanation I have heard is that even real Dommes, on occasion, enjoy reversing roles as a “balance” when they become a bit bored with always being the top. However, the Dommes I have been with enjoy the occasional submission to a another dominant woman to have that balance.

    • I see what you are attempting to say. I believe that there is a difference between a dominant woman and a woman who enjoys domination. Women who enjoy domination are sometimes called switch women and sometimes not but i believe that they are similar. These types of women also enjoy other activities and switch roles in order to ‘balance’ as you say. A dominant woman however, cannot feel fulfilled through submission. I suppose that a dominant woman could act sumissive, but this would be rather undesirable.
      –Miss Ari ^_^

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