I cannot even pretend that I was amused throughout this actual conversation that I had with a ‘friend’ of mine. Her point was simple; If being a dominant woman is so great, then why are you still single?
This is by far not the most ignorant thing that I have ever heard, but it is pretty damn close. This statement was probably the equivalent to,
“If America is so great, why aren’t you famous yet?”
“If you like eggs so much, why don’t you own a chicken farm?”
Knowing someones preferences does not give you the right to expect to see a certain behavior from them.
Just because I am dominant, does not mean that I will automatically never be alone. A dominant woman is still a woman, with feelings and flaws and preferences and any confident woman will think wisely about a relationship instead of behaving based on a desperate need to not be alone.
My current single status does not make me a bad domme, just like a vanilla woman’s single status would not make her a lesbian.
In my case, I have recently moved. I am in a new environment with new people and I have decided that for now I will take my love life one day at a time and see where it takes me. It does not mean that I am unsure about being dominant and it certainty does not mean that I am questioning mu ability to fulfill my desires.
But setting aside my frustrations with my friend, i would like to point out that asking someone why they are single is rude no matter what their preferences are.
These are all things that I wish I had said to my friend. Now that I think about it, the thing that I actually said was just fighting fire with fire.
It went something like this: “Since you are so obviously intrigued by my dominant desires, then why aren’t you dominant yet?”
–Miss Ari ^_^