Black and White ~ Ready

You knew I liked leather. Now, I think that’s what attracted you to me in the first place. You thought I wasn’t like the average woman and maybe, just maybe, I’d be open to those things you think about when you’re all alone at night.

Last month when you finally confessed all your dirty little secrets to me, I was a bit taken aback. But I meant it when I said I would think about it, and I have. Now I’ve been doing some internet research, and I’ve been finding out what all of your desires really entail. I’m not sure how many of them I’ll actually like. But I’m interested enough to give it all a try.

This collar is the first of many things I’ll be buying for our exploration. I’m ready. Are you?

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This is your last chance. If you’re really up to this, then crawl toward me and submit to my will. Go on and take a few minutes to decide. I don’t want you trying to change your mind later.

–Miss Ari ^_^

 

Tell Me About Your Dominant Side

If I kept my dreams a secret, I would surely explode, for, my dreams are often larger than I can bare!

If I kept my dreams a secret, I would surely explode, for, my dreams are often larger than I can bare!

I once spoke with a friend who wanted to know why I didn’t have the desire to submit in a relationship; After a brief explanation, the next request was ‘Tell me about your dominant side’.

The assumption here was that my dominance was a side, or an option, something that I needed to tap into whenever I had need of it. It never occurred to me that it could be a side. For me, It was never a side. It was my core, and it was hidden behind societal values until I realized that I could let it out. This is different than if it had been like a coin. I would be capable of flipping it from side to side whenever I felt like it, but one side of a coin can only consist of half the coin. The other half must always have its share.

The dominance coin may be useful to some women, who are uncomfortable with being dominant. With this concept, they are able to turn off their dominance and ‘fit in’ to the stencils that they have been raised with. 

But I bet, the stencils bring pain, and I bet conformity is a miserable peace. 

It is certainly something that I am no longer willing or able to do.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I am not suggesting that a dominant woman is totally dominant all the time. It is impossible. As a citizen of any country, a dominant woman abides by the laws, and perhaps even as a daughter, a dominant woman may behave less dominantly in the presence of her mother out of respect. A dominant woman will not resist submission in stewardship to what she holds valuable, But a dominant woman will NOT take a submissive role in order to gain friends or make those around her more comfortable. 

So my dear friends, I can not tell you about my dominant side, because it is not a side. It is a life style, it is a personality, it is a thought frame. It doesn’t turn off, or go away. It is not curable or a result of a bad child hood.

It is natural and it is me. And I LOVE me!

–Miss Ari ^_^

Romantic Domme

"Oh, my dear slave, of course I know that it is your birthday. I got you a 'gift', and it's bitter sweet, just the way I know you like it. What's that dear? Why, yes, Mistress knows that you love her."

“Oh, my dear slave, of course I know that it is your birthday. I got you a ‘gift’, and it’s bitter sweet, just the way I know you like it.”
“What’s that dear? Why, yes, Mistress knows that you love her.”

A while ago, I wrote a post called what kind of Domme are you? Humorously enough, as a result of this post, I got asked the question, “What kind of Domme are you?”

I am not a complicated type of person, but I am complex. I like what I want, when I want it and one of the things that I want a lot is romance.

In my mind, the romantic type of Domme is the type of Domme that craves a connection between her and her submissive. Emotion and mood are large factors in her ideal type of ‘play’. She wants to see her submissive react to what she does to him.

This type of Dominant Woman is unlikely to want a mindless slave who has no boundaries and no feelings toward the events or progress of the relationship. She wants to see that he has fears that he overcomes for her; she wants to see that he has opinions that are influenced by her; and she wants to see that he has a heart that is captivated by her slightest touch.

The Romantic Domme likes to spend time with her submissive. She would sooner have him sleep curled at her feet, than in a cage in the corner. This type of woman likes for him to learn her likes and dislikes so that he can know how to please her at any moment in time. 

The romantic Domme also behaves more possessively and likes to show off her submissive. She likes to go out to dinner, or walk in the park, or take him with her when she goes shoe shopping. 

To the romantic Domme, time spent together is more important than what is engraved on her new paddle–or on any toy, for that matter. Because it’s not about the toys (torturous or not), its about the beauty that is found within the scene, and the passion that manifests in this ‘abnormal’ relationship.

Yes, I know that this post now sounds a bit cheezy, but to a Romantic Domme, Its about the romance.

–Miss Ari ^_^

It’s the Little Things

Keep up the good work and I just might have to have you do my toes too!

Keep up the good work and I just might have to have you do my toes too!

It’s not always the large performances of submission that prove his devotion. Most of the time, it’s just the little things. Some days are exciting and filled with all types of “play”, and some days are not. On lazy days, sometimes the only thing that I want to do is have him sit at my feet as we watch a movie together and there is nothing wrong with that at all. 

A good submissive man should have a desire to learn new things. A good dominant woman is able to give clear instruction to help her man learn the new activities that he will have to preform for her.

Painting nails, massages, courtship manners, cooking, cleaning, and sexually pleasing are some of the things that a submissive man will likely be taught.

Of course, the little things are still inferior to the large feats of dedication, but in the beginning of a FemDom relationship, the little things are a big deal (at least to him).

The little acts of submission must be nurtured like seeds so that they bloom later on in the relationship. When a polite act is not met with a positive or approving response from the woman, the man will likely not do this again. 

Women have such a wonderful position to be able to influence the relationship by showing the man what behavior she accepts and what behavior she does not. And yet  so many women do not understand why their men do not behave how they want them to. Perhaps they do not want their men to behave, perhaps they wish for something to complain about to their friends, or perhaps, they do not understand that it’s the little things.

–Miss Ari ^_^