Black and White ~ Sting of Love + A Few Updates

Oh, don’t look at me that way darling. You know you love the sting.

Oh, don’t look at me that way, darling. You know you love the sting.

You know you love the thrill, the passionate heights, the delicious pain.

Don’t look at me like with those big puppy dog eyes.

You know you love the struggle.

You know you love the anticipation of my next swing.

You know you love counting out loud, gasping for air, and your entire body filling with endorphins in an attempt to counter my cruel flogger.

We both know you don’t want me to stop.

If you really did, truly did, then it’s just one word away.

But your mouth stays closed except for your gasping, occasional moaning, and counting of course.

So don’t look at me like that. You asked for this. And that face you are making, well, it’s only making me want to go harder and faster until you couldn’t possibly take any more.

So don’t look at me like that. Unless you want to actually put some force behind these strokes.

—Miss Ari ^_^

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You’ll notice a few updates to this site as you look around:

1. First and foremost, the site has a brand new look that reflects the evolution of this content into elegance and poise.
2. There will be a lot more short stories and “Black and White” photo series just like this one.
3. I’ve made some important updates to the “Books Worth Reading Page“. My previous author account has been lost so I will be starting over with some fresh new series, erotica shorts, and Novellas. You can check them out here.
4. I’ll also be going through some of the other posts and short stories on this site and making necessary additions and edits.
5. And as always, keep in touch in the comments!

—Miss Ari ^_^

Black and white ~ Third date

Tonight is your third date with the woman you met online. She says that this is the night that she lets you come back to her apartment.

If you thought she was confident before, dominant before, if you thought that she had you in the palm of her hand before, just wait until tonight.

Because up until now, she was being nice.

You never thought you’d meet someone who brought you to your knees that way she will, or someone that brakes you in a delicious way and then builds you back up to be even better.

But what’s more, you never thought that you’d like it.

–Miss Ari ^_^

Black and White ~ Ready

You knew I liked leather. Now, I think that’s what attracted you to me in the first place. You thought I wasn’t like the average woman and maybe, just maybe, I’d be open to those things you think about when you’re all alone at night.

Last month when you finally confessed all your dirty little secrets to me, I was a bit taken aback. But I meant it when I said I would think about it, and I have. Now I’ve been doing some internet research, and I’ve been finding out what all of your desires really entail. I’m not sure how many of them I’ll actually like. But I’m interested enough to give it all a try.

This collar is the first of many things I’ll be buying for our exploration. I’m ready. Are you?

This is your last chance. If you’re really up to this, then crawl toward me and submit to my will. Go on and take a few minutes to decide. I don’t want you trying to change your mind later.

–Miss Ari ^_^

 

Black and White ~ Punishment

Darling, if you didn’t know what to say you should have asked or not said anything at all. I get that you’re nervous to be at this party with such a beautiful woman like me but do not embarrass me in front of my friends again! Now when we get back out there, I want you as charming as ever or you won’t be allowed to worship my feet tonight. Got it?

“Yes Ma’am.”

“Good boy.”

~Miss Ari ^_^

Black and White ~ Obey

She shouldn’t have to say anything. You should be watching your Mistress carefully for when she silently commands you to be on your knees in front of her. You know your place is to obey her.

–Miss Ari ^_^

Black and White ~ Practice

That’s a good boy. Spread your knees a little wider now… Perfect! Now you know the rules. Stay just the way I put you while I try out our new toy and don’t you move an inch until I tell you to.

Form practice is very important to your learning process, darling. And it will be done on a regular basis.

–Miss Ari ^_^

Black and White ~ Discipline

She really wasn’t kidding when she said that she was going to get serious about his discipline. He was sure that she would be in a good mood today. She went to that fancy brunch with her friends that she’d been talking about all week. And he supposed that she was still in a good mood and yet she didn’t hesitate assign him a punishment.

She said they would still have their play time later that day. And that of course the punishment wouldn’t wait. She said he needed this and he deserved this.

He hung his head and entered the room thinking that the weight of her gaze would crush him into dust.

He should have just done his chores like he was supposed to.

–Miss Ari ^_^

Black and White ~ Intro

I know I haven’t been here lately. I’ve been over here a lot. But I’m not gone! And, in an attempt to get back on a schedule, I’ll be posting a black and white FemDom photo about every Friday accompanied by my comments or perhaps a poem. There’s something just so alluring about a black and white photo especially one as powerful as this. Beautiful legs just perfect for hosiery and an obedient boy at her feet, right where he belongs.

–Miss Ari ^_^

Be Careful What You Wish For (Short Fiction)

I watched his face carefully. His eyes were closed tightly and his breathing was labored but he remaining as still as he could. I knew he expected more, but I also suspected that he would not be able to handle any more. I rubbed my hand over his red flesh and he flinched for the first time.

“That’s enough.” I said softly. This wasn’t a punishment, after all. This was only to show him what would happen if he were to disobey me.

He looked up at me confused for a moment.

“That’s all for today. You took more than I thought you would. Were you counting?”

He nodded slowly.

“How many?”

He thought for a moment, then he took a breath. “Twenty-two?”

“Is that a question?”

“No. It… it was twenty-two.”

I sat my implement down and walked around him slowly. “Are you sure? It wasn’t Twenty-four? What about twenty-one?” I could see him hesitate for a moment.

“Umm…”

“Maybe we should start over? Then you can count again. Do you want to change your answer?”

“No, Ma’am. It was twenty-two.”

I smiled at him. “Very good.”

I stepped back until my legs touched the edge of the bed and I sat. “Come here.” I curled my finger at him.

He got to his knees slowly and crawled over to me. I received him taking his face into my hands and pulling closer kissing him deeply.

I broke the kiss.

“Yes.” He whispered.

“Yes, What?”

“Yes I still want to belong to you.”

I smiled. “I wasn’t going to ask.” I said. “I’ve asked you enough and I believe you now. I’m deciding for myself that you belong to me and there’s no going back. You know that don’t you? You’ll never be the same again. I own you totally and completely; every part of you is mine now.”

“Yes, Ma’am. Of course, Ma’am.”

“Do you like belonging to me?”

“Yes, Ma’am. It feels so good to belong to you. I wish to never leave your side.”

I smiled that sadistic smile that he loved. “Be careful what you wish for.”

–Miss Ari ^_^

P.S. I’ve recently recently published a few full length short stories and erotica novellas on Amazon: Here.
So, if you enjoy my writing, check it out.

Q & A: How Do I Punish Him When He Enjoys Spanking?

No I don’t believe you have forgotten your place. You just need a reminder.

I can tell you right off the bat that so many women worry needlessly about this sort of thing.

The first thing we have to think about is that regardless of whether or not someone enjoys spanking, it is still corporal punishment. A spanking, to a submissive man that enjoys it, still serves the purpose of reinforcing the dynamic of the relationship. It helps the Dominant to feel dominant and it helps the submissive to feel submissive to the Dominant. Even if he were to beg you for it and thank you for it afterward, it still has aspects of humiliation to it.

A masochist still feels pain and through receiving pain from their Dominant, they can reenter a submissive mind frame. In this case, corporal punishment can still serve as a corrective tool for slipping behaviors.

But let’s back track for a moment, because not all submissive are like this. In fact, most men that enjoy spanking enjoy it in a sensual sense. It is a level where it is still painful but not to a level that they would deem “too painful”. If you are seeking to use spankings as a punishment for this type of man, you need only step it up a notch. And this can be in intensity or in the implement that you choose. For instance, a man may enjoy being paddled, but would try to avoid the strap or the PVC tube at all costs.

Only if your skepticism still stands at this point, would I suggest that you start getting creative. There are, of course, other ways to discipline your submissive man including giving him rigorous physical tasks, chores and errands, or humiliation methods such as the many variations of corner time.

All other complications aside, it does come down to how you feel about it. If you don’t like the idea of spanking him to a point where he sees it as punishment, then you should turn to other methods. With whatever method you choose, your confidence must not wane. If think it will be effective, then it will.

Thanks for the question

–Miss Ari ^_^

Power Dynamic

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I haven’t had the pleasure of knowing a woman that is in a female led relationship that was initiated by the male; however, from what I have heard, it is difficult for these women to come to terms with the new power dynamic.

The power dynamic is the basis of all FemDom relationships but as the dominant woman, I decide the degree of my power. A high power dynamic would include the woman making all decisions and the male not being allowed to decide anything (with or without having his opinion heard). A low power dynamic would include decisions being made as a couple with the woman having the final say in everything. I personally favor a dynamic where the woman has all power of decision but the male has power of suggestion. Each of these dynamics are female led and it is the woman’s decision how the power dynamic will be displayed.

Regardless of the preferred dynamic, the important part is how you acquire that power. Even if the male offers you power over himself, you are still not in control until you decide that you are.

Willingly harnessing your female power is far more powerful than trying to be something that you are not.

The way you lead your FLR should reflect YOU. After all, that is the appeal anyway. Whether you prefer to be rough or gentleness should not be taken for weakness just because it may be different than the “mainstream” idea of FemDom. However, you decide to lead, you can still possess every bit of firmness that makes you dominant.

–Miss Ari ^_^

The Hardest Part About This Blog

Class is not restricted by age.

By far the pictures. I often find it difficult to find a picture depicting both elegance and female power. Most of the FemDom photos that can be found follow a theme of overly sexual or sometimes vulgar. And a fair amount of pictures of women in hosiery are of the same context. I need pictures that depict that hosiery is sexy, yes, but I also need pictures that do not make it seem that sexy is the only goal.

This blog is restricted to the pictures of poise; of confident woman that know how to handle themselves in a manner that exceeds outsider opinions.

This is not something that I will settle on. I will not give in to something that is just okay. I will scavenge for the strong and accurate pictures. These days, we could use more determination in our lives even if we only start with something that may seem small.

I am not afraid to go first. I choose photos of the gentle prowess of the dominant woman and the men who love them.

–Miss Ari ^_^

Black and White ~ Is it wrong?

Wrong? Don’t be silly, darling. Does this feel wrong to you?

Well, what do you think? Because a majority of the people that ask this are not asking whether it is really wrong, but they are asking what they should think. They do not think it is wrong but society tells them that they should.

I don’t blame them for being skeptical. Skepticism is a critical part of surviving. So maybe, by popular definition it is weird. Maybe it doesn’t fit in too well; maybe it’s wrong, but it feels so good doesn’t it?

Your body screams for my dominance.
Your skin craves my caress.
Your heart yearns to be enveloped in the sound of my voice, no matter what the command.
Your very bones tremble as I leave.
Your mind surrendered long ago.
But it doesn’t matter because you trust me to think for you when you cannot think for yourself.

It is not ignorance that you live in. It’s not power craze that fuels me.
It is our essences folding together where they belong.
Your submission is bliss.

And at the end of the day, if we are apart, we are still together. Aren’t we?

You can still feel my hand entwined in your hair.

Is that wrong?

I don’t think so.

–Miss Ari ^_^

Disagreements in a FemDom relationship

Of course I will listen to your opinions. And of course I will have the final word

It is my belief that in any healthy relationship, regardless of the power distribution, there should be no fights.

Disagreements, however, will always happen whether you want them to or not. One person may want one thing and the other person may want something different. Obvious solutions to disagreements are a lot of communication and compromise.

But how is this situation tackled in a relationship where there is power imbalance? What if the woman has final say in the decisions of a relationship? Wouldn’t that create a conflict?
The answer in my own experience is no. In a FemDom relationship, compromise carries a different meaning. It is no longer, both parties attempting an equal sacrifice. It is now the dominant partners’ decision whether or not to implement the submissive wishes, and the submissive knowing that she has the option not to.

Any responsible Domme seeks knowledge about her submissive and takes it into consideration when making decisions.

A certain presentation of FemDom depicts the male’s presence making no changes to her decisions. This is unrealistic. Things like health and psychological strength have to be taken into account.

It may sound like a lot of pressure is being put on the dominant woman, and it probably is. It’s no secret that being dominant comes with responsibility. Conflicts should be tackled assuming that sort of responsibility.

A prime example is a dominant woman wanting to do a certain activity and the submissive not wanting this activity. The ultimate question is whether to push the submissive boundaries.

This can be looked at two ways. The first way is assuming that the submissive is apprehensive but is willing to accept her help and guidance into the new territory. This is ideal. In this case, the submissive should be pushed slightly to promote the growth of the relationship.

The second situation is if the submissive is unwilling to be pushed. And if a submissive reacts with anger or resentment, these are the markings of a corrupt relationship. Pushing this type of submissive would cause more problems and communication is key here to resolve the issues at the heart of your relationship agreement before moving forward.

–Miss Ari ^_^

Thank you for all of the post requests I have gotten so far. If you’d like recognition for something you have requested, I am willing upon request.

What’s Wrong with Submissive men?

Good boy.

One of the big arguments that I have come across does not even come from the male perspective. It comes from the females. Women will often complain that they do not want FemDom because they do not wish to mother their men.

This is a complaint that comes from uninformed individuals. Aside from cases where a man would have an actual or unhealthy attraction to his mother, such a thing should not be a cause for concern.

First of all, you will never be his mother. It is impossible and he knows this as well. Such a concern is not justified to belong toward FemDom. A mother will typically care for, discipline, as well as do things for the child. The mothers does this for the child simply because he will not be able to care for himself otherwise. FemDom is not meant to mimic this. Within FemDom, the dominant woman may choose to care for and discipline her submissive, while knowing full well that he is an adult that could do so himself and their relationship is a reflection of their choices not necessities.

FemDom is based off of a certain level of stratification that places the supportive role on the male. A submissive man may or may not want to be tucked in, spoon fed, and pampered like an infant and that is a choice that must be mutually made. He will want to be lead firmly and lovingly so that he can be at his best either way.

Second, any feelings that he may have toward women being in charge are natural. They do not hinder his ability to be what you want him to be. He may be strictly supportive in the relationship as is the desire of many dominant women. But he could also be responsible, strong, reliable, and providing. He can have the capabilities as the “regular man” desired by these opposing women. The only difference is that he will want to be able to come home and know exactly how he should present himself for your approval.

He will want to know how to avoid disobeying you and exactly how to apologize for transgression.

He will want you, in all of your strengths and weaknesses.

He will want to learn your desires and your rejections.

He will want to be his best for you.

So, tell me. What is wrong with submissive men?

–Miss Ari ^_^

What Your Fears Are To Me

They are real despite what others might think.

They are thing I may not ever fear for myself, just as my fears are to you.

They can be lethal to our relationship if not handled properly.

They are nothing to be ashamed of;

nothing to hide from.

Your fears are bigger than I think they are;

and they are smaller than you think they are.

Your fears are a story written by your past;

and yet a path to a better future.

Your fears will bring us closer together.

–Miss Ari ^_^

Forgive yourself for me.

Poisonous Perfectionism

I’ve come across a few blogs by now with similar themes and I hope that mine is not interpreted as being a part of them.

Femdom is not an excuse to suggest that a woman or women in general are perfect. It is arguable that Femdom is a confidence booster but it certainly does not imply perfection.

Using the term Goddess, for example, is wonderful (and something I often enjoy) but should be used as a term to explain a power dynamic. It should be understood that the “Goddess” is in fact not perfect. She can still fail. She can still make mistakes, over look details, and make misjudgments. At the end of the day, she is still human.

Similarly, is the idea of hosiery bringing an illusion of flawlessness. But an illusion is still an illusion. Skin may not be that soft, shiny, tan, or seamless when they are shed of their beautiful covering. I don’t have to explain WHY I like hosiery. But I suppose I do have to explain that to me, it is not meant to be rid of flaw. Every flaw we have is beautiful.

Perfectionism poisons the mind and can take the form of rose colored glasses. It shocks everyone when they find out that this perfect person is prone to mistake. It devastates the mind of someone who thinks they cannot fail when, one day, they do not know what to do in a certain situation.

Such a poison hinders the ability to grow as a person or to apologize for anything. Something as simple as apologizing to a significant other doesn’t get eradicated in the context of FemDom. A lot of these people would be surprised to see the reaction they would get after a simple apology. It shouldn’t be disgust or shame or loss of love. It should be respect for someone brave enough to know that they are not perfect.

–Miss Ari ^_^

Is Consistency in Training a Good Thing? Q and A.

Pay very close attention my darling. You must remember the rules… just incase I forget :p

Consistency. Is it a good thing or a bad thing?
Well, it depends; not on the person or the relationship; but simply how you think of consistency.
To some people, consistency in a relationship means that the relationship stays the same. The couple engages in the same activities as they did before. In this sense, it can often be a negative thing; to make a relationship into a routine.

But…

If we think of consistency as allowing solid expectations for behavior and holding him accountable to them, then YES. Consistency is imperative.

“But what about keeping him on his toes?” You may ask.

Keeping him on his toes doesn’t have to mean constantly changing the rules. It means that at no point will she tolerate a period of time in which he is allowed to be overtly disobedient.

It is important to be able to share each others company in a relaxed environment, but it is even more important to stay comfortable in your roles.

To a certain degree, you cannot change your expectation of his role daily. You will make him confused. But one of the hardest things to remember is that you have to teach him to like more than just your persona if the relationship is going to last.

 

–Miss Ari ^_^

P.S. It feels good to be back in America. I think the hardest part will be getting started with the blog again. Any requests? misshosieryfetish@yahoo.com

What Kind of Sexy?

“Compared to others, I make sexy appear effortless. But in truth, everyone else is trying too hard anyway.”

I’ve found that real sexiness is a product of mind frame and behavior. When a woman ACTS in a self loving and confident manner, then she IS sexy.

The “popular sexy” attempted to skip the things that come before sexy. In this way, sexy means being promiscuous and dressing to reveal as much as possible.

You see, the second kind of sexy may attract a mans attention, but that is all that it will attract. It will not attract his respect, admiration, or desire to please you. It will only attract a fleeting infatuation that will leave you in the same position that you began with.

A dominant woman may choose to feel sexy, and know that she is sexy, and even to act sexy. The question is, what kind of sexy?

–Miss Ari ^_^

Role Reversal V.S. Power Exchange

No matter how you describe it,
it is me over you.
And you just can’t get enough of it, can you?

I have seen this argument in many forums lately and I must admit that I had not put very much thought into the topic until reading these comments. The dispute is that these two phrases cannot be used interchangeably.

The argument on the other side is that they are practically the same thing. But they are not.

Power exchange involves one partner giving up power to the other. Simple, right.

Well, role reversal implies that the partner that is “supposed to be” or “usually is” dominant is acting in a submissive role. The offense comes when it is interpreted, in the FemDom sense, that the woman is submissive by default. In this way, the only way for a woman to be dominant would be through a role reversal. And that she cannot be naturally dominant.

I believe either phrase an be used to describe a FemDom relationship, depending on the perspectives and history of the partners. If one couple feels that their power dynamic is indeed a role reversal, then it is. And if another FemDom couple feels that the roles they are natural to them and not a reversal but a power exchange, then it is.

In my opinion, it is a personal choice. But a healthy relationship can ensue from both.

What’s my preference you ask?…

Power Exchange

–Miss Ari ^_^